The older I get the more I get these men. Like Steve Harvey said act like a lady and think like a man.
I've been cheating on, and I was also been the one doing the cheating. So I've been on both sides of the fence, I know what its like to be cheated on and to sneak and cheat. Neither one is good. They both lead to heartache and pain. And just when I think karma has got me back for what I've done....something happens to me again.
Right now I'm not in no pain. Nor do I have to wonder about someone cheating on me. Its feels good to be free and be able to date and mingle, but at the same time my heart still belongs to him. I have the ability to fuck and suck who ever I please, whenever I please but i cant. My spirits rejects anyone that touches me. And its all because he still has that control over me. And i still feel like im entitled to him. i still belongs to him.
I want to belong to him. honestly but were to different. I want to be with the one that my child knows that i know.
Thursday, June 21, 2012
Selfless w/o being selfish....
I think selfish should be replaced with self-interest. Everyone has self-interest and makes every decision from self-interest because they make the decision based on what they want to do. Nobody makes decisions without self-interest.
The way I interpret selfish is different than self-interest. When you do things for someone, you do it out of self-interest. You want them to be happy. However, if your self-interest includes helping others or caring for others, it is more selfless than selfish.
If you act on love for someone, you are acting because you want to make them happy - you care. That care that you have though makes the act more selfless than selfish.
If you do an act without regard for others and do something that will benefit yourself then it is selfish.
The way I defined selfish and selfless make the words a little more abstract. Lets say you give a ride to one of your friends for two reasons:
1. You care for them and want to give them the ride since they have no other
2. they say they will give you a ride tomorrow (since you don't have one tomorrow)
^In that example, the act could be considered selfish and selfless. It could be selfish if you don't care much about the person and probably decided to not give the person the ride if he was not offering you one tomorrow.
The act could be considered selfless if you did care about the person and would have decided to give the person the ride anyway even if he didn't offer you one.
Whether the act is selfish or selfless (and how much of each) depends on the decision maker's reasons for the act. If you judge someone else's act, keep in mind that there is a good chance you don't know the person's real reasons for doing an act (though some can be pretty obvious). Even if the person expressed their reasons, they could be lying!
The way I interpret selfish is different than self-interest. When you do things for someone, you do it out of self-interest. You want them to be happy. However, if your self-interest includes helping others or caring for others, it is more selfless than selfish.
If you act on love for someone, you are acting because you want to make them happy - you care. That care that you have though makes the act more selfless than selfish.
If you do an act without regard for others and do something that will benefit yourself then it is selfish.
The way I defined selfish and selfless make the words a little more abstract. Lets say you give a ride to one of your friends for two reasons:
1. You care for them and want to give them the ride since they have no other
2. they say they will give you a ride tomorrow (since you don't have one tomorrow)
^In that example, the act could be considered selfish and selfless. It could be selfish if you don't care much about the person and probably decided to not give the person the ride if he was not offering you one tomorrow.
The act could be considered selfless if you did care about the person and would have decided to give the person the ride anyway even if he didn't offer you one.
Whether the act is selfish or selfless (and how much of each) depends on the decision maker's reasons for the act. If you judge someone else's act, keep in mind that there is a good chance you don't know the person's real reasons for doing an act (though some can be pretty obvious). Even if the person expressed their reasons, they could be lying!
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