Sista Big Bone

Plump or plus size
Thicker or bigger
There's no way to describe
The feeling of these rubbing thighs.
I make no apology nor try to disguise
My curvy and more than ample body
When gazed upon by unaccepting eyes.
My Body was made perfectly
The way God intended
So who cares
If my stomach is a little overly extended?
But never have I pretended
Or failed to realize
That physically my body
Isn't like you,
We both have two arms and two legs
I just have more body than you do.
No longer will I be
Ashamed of me
Because society has everyone shook.
But what they don't know,
Is that Mo'Nique Queen Latifah
And women like me are the modern look.
A pretty face
With a little extra chin
And stretch marks that graze our skin
Less is no longer more
Because we are the new thin.
And yes there are an extra set of love handles on my back
From my occasional mid-night snack
But whether you call it
Over weight, obese, BBW, big girl or fat
I know that you can plainly see
That I am SISTAH BIG BONE REALITY!

Grind With Me

Yesterday I signed myself up for pole-chair dancing classes and exotic dance classes. It starts in June and it's twice a week for 8 weeks. (i do zumba @ the gym once a week but i wanted something more dance routine) If you enjoy dancing.... instead of goin to the gym and doing weights and cardio you could join a dance studio or find something in your area where you can get a exercise in something you love/like to do. If you haven't taken a pole/chair dancing class I suggest you do so, or a exotic dance class...(what makes it exotic is your doing more booty, hip,leg,work in a sexy way-look it up if you wanna know more)  I'm a big girl and I thought I would get intimidated and feel left'd out in the class but being in that environment put me to the test.  I had to be open minded and willing to try. It made me see my insecurities, i learn how shy and anti social i was , over time i made new friends, gain confidence, and you feel sexy, I'm more confident,  more sure of myself now and its fun and makes me happy. And most importantly is a fun sexy way to exercise build strength and endurance and learn a new trick lol. so the point of this post is lol...get into something that you love to do or try something you never thought of doing...if you don't wanna do it alone get ya girlfriend to join you .share your stories, suggest different classes we all could take or do. Look up different classes and events in your area and experience different things this summer!!! Have a Blessed Day Ladies <3 Dani

Mental Stability

Many issues that we face on a day to day basis were not usually brought up or talked about back in the day they were covered up, over looked, pacified, ignored. 

Over the years a lot of issues like racism, gang violence, stds, pregnancy, self esteem and so on are really being brought to people's attention. I feel like in 2012 people are a lot more open to these topics. People are not afraid to hide whats going on in the world, very bold, very open about everything now. 


Being mentally stable is so important  this day and age. If you are not mentally stable you can easily be broken down. I think a lot of people are not mentally stable, especially teenagers and young adults. Pregnancy is on the rise, stds are spreading , a lot of suicides have been going on, gangs are multiplying, and you see fights everyday on world star or you tube. And that all steams from not being mentally stable. It also can stem from not having a good up bringing, your surroundings and people that you may be around can be the influence, the trials you go through as a child to a young adult, abuse, neglect, and the list goes on and on. 


Not being mentally stable can cause you to act out, be suicidal or think suicidal. Be insecure, depressed. Be upset and mad all the time. Act out of character , randomly.


I just want to shed some light on this issue because people can make excuses as to why there not mental stable like I had a bad childhood, or my father rapped me, or i was taught to be or act this way, I'm secure and I gotta do what i gotta do to fit in, my parents and friends do drugs so I'm doing it to...all of these excuses or reasons comes from a person who is weak in the MIND.


Mental is the MIND and Unstable is unsettle, or unchanging. 


So to me that means a weak minded person who does not know them self. 
Does not love them self. 
Does not care about there well being. 
                                              Confused, Troubled, Lost....smh


If you are a person who is mentally unstable you need to seek medical attention, talk to someone, or you can pray about the situation and grow and learn to love yourself. 

Once you love yourself, and know your worth, and know your purpose. Mentally NO ONE will be able to break you down. Address the issues that you have with in and solve them and put them be hide you and start clean. If you are a parent, teach your kids about being strong, respectful, and confident. Teach them good principles about life and how they should go about life.

This is a serious topic...this is a start....comments are appreciated. Until i randomly want to write a blog about something again....i'll holla.