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White women's opinion of black women & a brother's response Please
take a moment and read this. Pretty Deep! Thumbs up to this black man..
Enjoy. It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine
by a Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men. I'm so
glad she got what she asked for (and more) !!!
Dear Jamie: I'm sorry but
I would like to challenge some of your Black male
readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Black
male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of
Black female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he
wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As
he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too
argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess
baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly
approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the
world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men,
why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of
the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I
would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and
coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one
of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell
Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney
Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy
Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes... I could go on and on. But,
right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly.
Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us.
Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat
your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know. Disgusted White
Girl, Somewhere in VA RESPONSE
Dear Jamie: I would like to respond to
the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying
that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most
prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts
Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation
and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among
the ranks of successful black men. I will not use my precious time to
slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why
black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons
why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy.
The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were
very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it
to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone
who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to
the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white
women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men,
because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become
intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our
woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive
nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men
look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to
numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to
control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record
straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful
black men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel
Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair
Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock
all married strong black women And, to flip the script, there are
numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly
desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and
David Bowie to name a few. I just don't want a disgusted white girl to
be misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are
some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like
Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in
Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating
each other over the head with clubs. Read your history! It was the black
woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the
black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black
women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery. It
is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands,
and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born
with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And,
through all this, Still They Rise! It is because of the black women's
strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could> never>
date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that
captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in
all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner
beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong
spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to
overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they
believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest
potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen
in love with black women. I honestly believe that your anger is geared
more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were
not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your
skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy
with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and
breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller
and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you
wanting to have what the black woman has. BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking
for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give
you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman.
Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who
can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a
soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and
CANNOT fit the bill. No offense taken, none given. Signed, Black Royalty
— posted by Shareff Shabazz on FB....
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