17 Goals For Success...

1. Commitment
2. Unselfishness
3. Unity

4. Improve
5. Be TOUGH
6. Self-Discipline
7. Great Effort
8. Enthusiasm
9. Eliminate Mistakes
10. Never Give Up
11. Don't Accept Losing
12. NO Self Limitations
13. EXPECT TO WIN!
14. CONSISTENCY!
15. Leadership
16. Responsibility
17. Eliminate Excuse

All Things Southern ...Next 20

21. oh - and my favorite (seriously, my grandfather says this and i melt" "well, I declare" 
22. You feel "much obliged" to do (whatever it is...) 
23. ...call daffodils jonquils
24.  Wear bright orange shoes to match your bright orange plaid skirt.
25. I reckon all y'all mightcould go on o'er yonder crick with a sack o cokes if'n it wasn't to cold. (cold being anything below 65)
26. when they call for and frozen precipitation, you feel the need to buy all the bread and milk from your local grocery store.
27.  if you eat grits with your aigs (seasoned with butter, salt and pepper), and NEVER in a bowl with cream and sugar
 28. you've attended at least one wedding, funeral or church service in an "Antioch Baptist Church."
29. you grew up at least 30 miles from a small-town speed trap.
30. you're either related to or know someone named Cledus, Merle, Junior, Leroy or Jewel.
31. you like fried okra and boiled peanuts.
 32.  grow up knowing the difference between "pert' near" and "a right far piece."
33. True Southerners both know and understand the differences between a redneck, a good ol' boy, and po' white trash.
34. No true Southerner would ever assume that the car with the flashing turn signal is actually going to make a turn.
35.  that "fixin" can be used both as a noun, verb, and adverb.
36.  know exactly when "by and by" is.
37. If you entertain a party by telling stories about your family's moonshinin' days.
38.  Know what a swamp maple is.
39. Grits are a mainstay of your breakfast diet.
40. you know you are panhandle Southerner if you know what the big bend is.

All Things Southern....through 20

1. Use alot of home remedies and things we grew up on instead of going to the store to buy something. 

2. Answerising yes mam and yes sir has no age.

3. Manners are not optional.

4. Someones heart is always being blessed. 

5. Chicken is fried and biscuits come with gravy.

6. Summer starts in April

7.Front porches are wide and words are long.

8. Someone always got a story about back in the day...

9. Y'all is a proper noun.

10. Flip flops are wore all year long.

11. Lightning bugs belong in a mason jars.

12. Saying "fixing to" alot...

13. Knowing "yonder" is a direction.

14. Sweet Tea in mason jars.

15. Getting water from the well.

16. Growing up on Grandma home cooking, all the family meet at her house on sundays. And she cooks a feast in like a hour....

17. Moon pies and sun drops

18. Acoustic guitars

19."You catch more flies with honey than vinegar."....constantly fed old lines like these...

20. You say it's a 'sack' and not a 'bag,' a 'pail' and not a 'bucket,' and a 'crick' instead of a 'creek'

So I'm Dating A Older Guy

I'm 25 and I just starting dating a guy that just turned 35. Our first date was the best date I have ever been on. We clicked as if we known each other for years and there was never a dull moment. He was such gentlemen, and respectful and I never felt uncomfortable. It was one of those where have you been all my life type of moments... Never once throughout the date was sex mention or thought about which is a plus because thats what everyone want to talk about most of the time....When I sit back and reflect on conversations we had and what his goals are and what my goals are we seem to match up pretty well. But I wonder will we be able to deal with one another sometimes...

**my mouth can get terrible at times and with him being older i doubt he argue back and take the time to deal with my rants...he seems to have a no tolerance to arguing...
**he usually alseep no later than midnight, I think that has to do with him  being older...when i want to talk ill call him like 2 or 3 in the morning and even though hes asleep he will try to talk but i end up getting off the phone and letting him sleep.

He has a set routine everyday....wake up, shower, breakfast, work, dinner, shower, bed.....lol
 There are times when I'm not going to be routine.
 Will he be able to be spontaneous and do some crazy freaky shit???? lol...Will he think that's childish? 

What I love about him is he is about all taking care of home. He pays the bills, takes care of his son, comes from a good home, and has a good job that pays well...to name a few...he's already settled down and just looking for someone to spend time with. He's clean and smells good lol.

The way he dresses is much older...he's not into the fitted hats, foamposites, and high priced colognes. Hes simple. A clean shirt and clean jeans with some nikes is all he needs.

He doesn't look his age at all. He could easily pass for a 27 year old. But when he talks and carries on a conversation you can tell that he has some wisdom and has grown.

O and did I mention he is completely the opposite of what I normally would go for. Light Skinned, curly hair, 6 foot, slim...

So I'm open minded about where this can go. So far I really dont have any expectations. I just want to be happy...

I Appreciate You.

Its not to show someone you love that you appreciate them. It doesn't have to be buying them gifts all the time it can be the simple things. Like if you know they worked a long day you can have a hot delicious dinner waiting for them, or a nice hot bath running. You can fix them breakfast in the morning, things of that nature. All these are forms of showing someone that you love them and appreciate them being there for you.

someone is checkin in (pause)

All I want is someone that's there for me. Has consideration for everything that I DO...I've been overlooked and under-appreciated for too long and I know I deserve something good. 

Filing For Child Support

I prolonged filing for child support for so  long because I love him and I believed that we could be adults about the situation and make arrangements about everything...

He told me you get whatever I give you, but the law ain't never gonna make me do anything. Threaten me to never attempt to file because he would see to it that he would have our daughter taken away from me and get full custody so I would be paying him ...smh...I should've known that this relationship was going in the dumps when he told me that year after year. And year after year we got good, sometimes great, then bad, and then hella hell....!!! (let me give him some credit) He paid half on her birthdays every year, and he brought her two pairs of shoes for pre k....I've been doing everything else.

I know I live with my parents but I'm by far so much more stable then he is. The women that run in and out of his MOMMAS apartment, and the lifestyle he lives he couldn't possible be a good father figure to a little girl. not now anyway.

So after me and my daughter were kicked out the house in the middle of a tornado this weekend. (thanks to him) and It took us 3 hours to get home because of the storm and traffic... I finally decided enough is enough. I feel so dumb and naive because I continued to stay with someone that never really gave a fuck about me or our child we had together. My daughter should of never witness arguments we have had and times when he would call me every name in the book in front of her. NEVER....makes me so sad that she had to see that and she asks me questions like mommy why is daddy so mean?, or why was daddy out all night and left us here alone?, mommie whats wrong?.....

As much as I wanna cry and be depressed I don't have the time to.

There are little times when I might break down privately but no one sees. And no one knows. So I finally did the impossible. Only because I really can't take care of my daughter alone and I shouldn't have to. But i really didn't want to bring anybody else in our situation that's why i never did. I don't know how the process will go but I'm going to try to get the support my daughter deserves. He claims there are ways around him paying and that if he signs his rights over that will free him of everything, told me he will have his attorneys there as well to beat it. I said well bring it on. OMG....right..he has no shame and he knows he doesn't support her and makes over $50,000 a year and you cant hep me with our daughter. such a bastard child.

so sad, but I made the 1st move into a good direction. Every since he put us out I haven't talked to him. Haven't been returning txt or phone calls. I just don't want anything to do with him anymore. The fact that you are bitch enough to throw me and my child out in the rain over something so petty is unreal. But knowing him he gets into these random arguments with me, for me to leave and go home so another chick can come through. And Ive allowed him to do and say whatever he wants to do for the past 2 years....

I'm tired and Its not fair to my daughter so no more. I'm done.