I prolonged filing for child support for so long because I love him and I believed that we could be adults about the situation and make arrangements about everything...
He told me you get whatever I give you, but the law ain't never gonna make me do anything. Threaten me to never attempt to file because he would see to it that he would have our daughter taken away from me and get full custody so I would be paying him ...smh...I should've known that this relationship was going in the dumps when he told me that year after year. And year after year we got good, sometimes great, then bad, and then hella hell....!!! (let me give him some credit) He paid half on her birthdays every year, and he brought her two pairs of shoes for pre k....I've been doing everything else.
I know I live with my parents but I'm by far so much more stable then he is. The women that run in and out of his MOMMAS apartment, and the lifestyle he lives he couldn't possible be a good father figure to a little girl. not now anyway.
So after me and my daughter were kicked out the house in the middle of a tornado this weekend. (thanks to him) and It took us 3 hours to get home because of the storm and traffic... I finally decided enough is enough. I feel so dumb and naive because I continued to stay with someone that never really gave a fuck about me or our child we had together. My daughter should of never witness arguments we have had and times when he would call me every name in the book in front of her. NEVER....makes me so sad that she had to see that and she asks me questions like mommy why is daddy so mean?, or why was daddy out all night and left us here alone?, mommie whats wrong?.....
As much as I wanna cry and be depressed I don't have the time to.
There are little times when I might break down privately but no one sees. And no one knows. So I finally did the impossible. Only because I really can't take care of my daughter alone and I shouldn't have to. But i really didn't want to bring anybody else in our situation that's why i never did. I don't know how the process will go but I'm going to try to get the support my daughter deserves. He claims there are ways around him paying and that if he signs his rights over that will free him of everything, told me he will have his attorneys there as well to beat it. I said well bring it on. OMG....right..he has no shame and he knows he doesn't support her and makes over $50,000 a year and you cant hep me with our daughter. such a bastard child.
so sad, but I made the 1st move into a good direction. Every since he put us out I haven't talked to him. Haven't been returning txt or phone calls. I just don't want anything to do with him anymore. The fact that you are bitch enough to throw me and my child out in the rain over something so petty is unreal. But knowing him he gets into these random arguments with me, for me to leave and go home so another chick can come through. And Ive allowed him to do and say whatever he wants to do for the past 2 years....
I'm tired and Its not fair to my daughter so no more. I'm done.
I remember reading this and I'll be honest...chuckle at some of this.
ReplyDeleteI too was told by my ex-husbands girlfriend (dont even go there) that he planned to sign his rights away so he wouldnt have to support the girls if I took him for child support.
THAT IS AN IGNORANT LIE. Its called a paternity test. YOu make the baby, you pay to raise the baby. If that were the case do you know how many athletes would be off the hook for their sexual escapades resulting in babies and child support if they could just say : I relinquish my rights? LOL. Dont buy into that threat. Its ignorant, and untrue.
Second, getting kicked out in the rain? Its sad to hear but I have been kicked out too. It was all quite funny looking back because after I was kicked out I was getting calls on my machine all night afterward ironically from the idiot who kicked me out of the car. It was all good because I was having some fun of my own on a date in Adams Morgan while he was calling.
(d-mn fool...LOL)
Taking a man who doesnt want to be taken for child support is tough. They almost always try to cause you pain thru the child(ren) not realizing or caring that it hurts the child(ren).
In my opinion this speaks to the selfishness of the man who behaves this way. A parents job is to protect their children from harm and by causing their children pain just to take a stab at the "babys mother" is EXPOSING the kid to unnecessary harm and pain. Selfishness is a sign of immaturity. IM sure like me, you were selfish in HS. No one understands,you do what you want, you dont care what people say. However the moment you have a child you wake up and realize the world isnt about you and you dont matter anymore, your baby does. Sadly sometimes the men women choose to father their children are not yet mature and therefore still selfish and their feelings come before all else including their childs. When it comes to child support, if you aren't doing it to spite the absent parent I say go for it. If the absent parent isnt helping raise the child he or she needs to be held accountable. A child doesnt eat when you have the money to feed them. You make sure you have the money so your child can eat. period. Do whats best for your baby. She will come to see everything for what it is when she gets older. Afterall, didnt we all?