Mr. Goggles...

Mr. Goggles

Laying in the bed lonesome, covers pulled over myself, fan running slowly I can faintly hear it. I’m fatigued from the nice hot shower I just took after working all night.

I’m horny and yearning for you to be inside of me. Straightforward right. Lol

I close my eyes and imagine you kissing my neck.

Your hands moving me and chills racing throughout my body.

Looking into my eyes as you suck on my titties and you slowly work your mouth below heading for my golden treasure.

The instant you kiss it, I yearn for more.

My heart starts beating faster, and I open my legs wider and start gyrating my hips onto your tongue.

Ummmm……why you keep doing me like this? You have no idea how powerful you are.

Lip biting, mouth watering, thighs shaking, toes curling, heart beating…

I move the top of your head in, out and around my clit, moving you the way I desire. The way it feels beneficial to me.

Mr. Goggles is taking a swim…

Taking in my pussy like it’s his final repast…

Ingesting my pussy like his existence depended on it…

You are my peace…the only one who can put me to rest…

And I love it. I love how you please me. I love how you take command and know just what to do.

My orgasm is like a strong rush of pleasure where everything is centered around the clit. Then I feel tension build, and pleasure build with it, until it feels like my clit is going to explode. I can feel myself going into spasms and my brain feels like it's being flooded. After it's over, I feel really alert and quite business-like. The whole thing takes less time than it does to make a cup of tea.

Let’s take a break, let me gather my thoughts and get ready for part 2…stay tuned.

The Feeling Of Not Being Completed...

                        (I can see myself being with someone and never feeling fully completed.)

Before i start this blog I really wanted to define what being in love with a person is and what loving a person is, and the difference between the two. After doing my research I concluded that you can love many things. Plants, animals, people. etc. But you can only be in love with one thing and that usually only applies to people.

When you love someone you want them to be happy, safe. You care and wish them the best for them. Love can apply to anything or anybody. Being in love is a state of mind, something you can feel deep down in your soul. You both kiss and hug all the time. You give each other gifts for what ever happens. When you talk to each other on the phone or in person you are so happy to talk to them you can talk about anything and never fight. It does not matter how much time u spend with that person you like being around each other no matter if you are together once a week or every day for hours and u never get bored with that person. Being inlove is that other half to loving someone times 10!  It is a feeling of belonging to another soul, it is the feeling of ache in your soul when you are not with the person you are in love with.

So what do you do when your inlove with someone that just loves you???? What if everything in your body is shouting out to you that this person is the one and YOU know that that person does not feel the same way?

So I really had to sit back and think to myself am i in love with him? or is it lust? Yes he introduced me to things I've never experienced. yes we do have history together and been through hell with one another. But now that we are not together i question the whole existence of our so called relationship.  I feel like no one can ever replace him, and I feel like I'll be never be able to love someone as much as I loved him.

I can see myself being married to someone who adores me and is in love with me but my soul still being someone else's. Many people especially married people are in love with someone else but would never tell a soul and never jeopardize there marriage. So if your married and in love with someone else do you stay married and live a lie? In hopes that your husband or wife can become the person your in love with? Or in hopes that you can make or change the person your with to be the person your in love with. 

I always told myself that if you love someone and you can still feel that feeling, still can see the future with this person despite whatever you two are going through now then you can always make it work.  I tried to make my relationship work with someone who just had love for me for years. I really don't know if he ever was in love with me. You can't make someone fall in love with you. I hoped and prayed everyday for years that he could see what I saw in us and fall in love. But he never did. Instead he saw what I saw in him in someone else. And to this day I still don't really know if this feeling that i have is being in love with him or not, I doubt that its lust.

Feeling a sad, empty feeling right now writing this. Because I want to be happy, but i'll never be fully completed still wanting someone else. smh.

So what do I do about this? I'll tell you what I'm doing now.

I'm doing productive things to take my mind and heart off Mr. Doing things that make me happy, and being around people that care and appreciate my company. I found a man who adores and loves me, flaws and all and I just want to feel the same. When he looks into my eyes and tells me he loves me, I cry inside from knowing that I have the ability to hurt him, I'm sad at the the fact I don't feel that way. Right now he's just fulfilling my needs and filling that void that Mr. left. Its just sad because I know he's a humble, genuine, person.

When I start feeling this way I think about everything that has happen with MR. and the pros and cons of trying to be with him. And then i think about all the pros and cons with the new boo...and there's so many more benefits but something in my soul still wants to belong to MR. and that's the part that I'm trying shake...

God. Please help me, please help my heart before I loose a good man.....

17 Goals For Success...

1. Commitment
2. Unselfishness
3. Unity

4. Improve
5. Be TOUGH
6. Self-Discipline
7. Great Effort
8. Enthusiasm
9. Eliminate Mistakes
10. Never Give Up
11. Don't Accept Losing
12. NO Self Limitations
13. EXPECT TO WIN!
14. CONSISTENCY!
15. Leadership
16. Responsibility
17. Eliminate Excuse

All Things Southern ...Next 20

21. oh - and my favorite (seriously, my grandfather says this and i melt" "well, I declare" 
22. You feel "much obliged" to do (whatever it is...) 
23. ...call daffodils jonquils
24.  Wear bright orange shoes to match your bright orange plaid skirt.
25. I reckon all y'all mightcould go on o'er yonder crick with a sack o cokes if'n it wasn't to cold. (cold being anything below 65)
26. when they call for and frozen precipitation, you feel the need to buy all the bread and milk from your local grocery store.
27.  if you eat grits with your aigs (seasoned with butter, salt and pepper), and NEVER in a bowl with cream and sugar
 28. you've attended at least one wedding, funeral or church service in an "Antioch Baptist Church."
29. you grew up at least 30 miles from a small-town speed trap.
30. you're either related to or know someone named Cledus, Merle, Junior, Leroy or Jewel.
31. you like fried okra and boiled peanuts.
 32.  grow up knowing the difference between "pert' near" and "a right far piece."
33. True Southerners both know and understand the differences between a redneck, a good ol' boy, and po' white trash.
34. No true Southerner would ever assume that the car with the flashing turn signal is actually going to make a turn.
35.  that "fixin" can be used both as a noun, verb, and adverb.
36.  know exactly when "by and by" is.
37. If you entertain a party by telling stories about your family's moonshinin' days.
38.  Know what a swamp maple is.
39. Grits are a mainstay of your breakfast diet.
40. you know you are panhandle Southerner if you know what the big bend is.

All Things Southern....through 20

1. Use alot of home remedies and things we grew up on instead of going to the store to buy something. 

2. Answerising yes mam and yes sir has no age.

3. Manners are not optional.

4. Someones heart is always being blessed. 

5. Chicken is fried and biscuits come with gravy.

6. Summer starts in April

7.Front porches are wide and words are long.

8. Someone always got a story about back in the day...

9. Y'all is a proper noun.

10. Flip flops are wore all year long.

11. Lightning bugs belong in a mason jars.

12. Saying "fixing to" alot...

13. Knowing "yonder" is a direction.

14. Sweet Tea in mason jars.

15. Getting water from the well.

16. Growing up on Grandma home cooking, all the family meet at her house on sundays. And she cooks a feast in like a hour....

17. Moon pies and sun drops

18. Acoustic guitars

19."You catch more flies with honey than vinegar."....constantly fed old lines like these...

20. You say it's a 'sack' and not a 'bag,' a 'pail' and not a 'bucket,' and a 'crick' instead of a 'creek'

So I'm Dating A Older Guy

I'm 25 and I just starting dating a guy that just turned 35. Our first date was the best date I have ever been on. We clicked as if we known each other for years and there was never a dull moment. He was such gentlemen, and respectful and I never felt uncomfortable. It was one of those where have you been all my life type of moments... Never once throughout the date was sex mention or thought about which is a plus because thats what everyone want to talk about most of the time....When I sit back and reflect on conversations we had and what his goals are and what my goals are we seem to match up pretty well. But I wonder will we be able to deal with one another sometimes...

**my mouth can get terrible at times and with him being older i doubt he argue back and take the time to deal with my rants...he seems to have a no tolerance to arguing...
**he usually alseep no later than midnight, I think that has to do with him  being older...when i want to talk ill call him like 2 or 3 in the morning and even though hes asleep he will try to talk but i end up getting off the phone and letting him sleep.

He has a set routine everyday....wake up, shower, breakfast, work, dinner, shower, bed.....lol
 There are times when I'm not going to be routine.
 Will he be able to be spontaneous and do some crazy freaky shit???? lol...Will he think that's childish? 

What I love about him is he is about all taking care of home. He pays the bills, takes care of his son, comes from a good home, and has a good job that pays well...to name a few...he's already settled down and just looking for someone to spend time with. He's clean and smells good lol.

The way he dresses is much older...he's not into the fitted hats, foamposites, and high priced colognes. Hes simple. A clean shirt and clean jeans with some nikes is all he needs.

He doesn't look his age at all. He could easily pass for a 27 year old. But when he talks and carries on a conversation you can tell that he has some wisdom and has grown.

O and did I mention he is completely the opposite of what I normally would go for. Light Skinned, curly hair, 6 foot, slim...

So I'm open minded about where this can go. So far I really dont have any expectations. I just want to be happy...

I Appreciate You.

Its not to show someone you love that you appreciate them. It doesn't have to be buying them gifts all the time it can be the simple things. Like if you know they worked a long day you can have a hot delicious dinner waiting for them, or a nice hot bath running. You can fix them breakfast in the morning, things of that nature. All these are forms of showing someone that you love them and appreciate them being there for you.

someone is checkin in (pause)

All I want is someone that's there for me. Has consideration for everything that I DO...I've been overlooked and under-appreciated for too long and I know I deserve something good. 

Filing For Child Support

I prolonged filing for child support for so  long because I love him and I believed that we could be adults about the situation and make arrangements about everything...

He told me you get whatever I give you, but the law ain't never gonna make me do anything. Threaten me to never attempt to file because he would see to it that he would have our daughter taken away from me and get full custody so I would be paying him ...smh...I should've known that this relationship was going in the dumps when he told me that year after year. And year after year we got good, sometimes great, then bad, and then hella hell....!!! (let me give him some credit) He paid half on her birthdays every year, and he brought her two pairs of shoes for pre k....I've been doing everything else.

I know I live with my parents but I'm by far so much more stable then he is. The women that run in and out of his MOMMAS apartment, and the lifestyle he lives he couldn't possible be a good father figure to a little girl. not now anyway.

So after me and my daughter were kicked out the house in the middle of a tornado this weekend. (thanks to him) and It took us 3 hours to get home because of the storm and traffic... I finally decided enough is enough. I feel so dumb and naive because I continued to stay with someone that never really gave a fuck about me or our child we had together. My daughter should of never witness arguments we have had and times when he would call me every name in the book in front of her. NEVER....makes me so sad that she had to see that and she asks me questions like mommy why is daddy so mean?, or why was daddy out all night and left us here alone?, mommie whats wrong?.....

As much as I wanna cry and be depressed I don't have the time to.

There are little times when I might break down privately but no one sees. And no one knows. So I finally did the impossible. Only because I really can't take care of my daughter alone and I shouldn't have to. But i really didn't want to bring anybody else in our situation that's why i never did. I don't know how the process will go but I'm going to try to get the support my daughter deserves. He claims there are ways around him paying and that if he signs his rights over that will free him of everything, told me he will have his attorneys there as well to beat it. I said well bring it on. OMG....right..he has no shame and he knows he doesn't support her and makes over $50,000 a year and you cant hep me with our daughter. such a bastard child.

so sad, but I made the 1st move into a good direction. Every since he put us out I haven't talked to him. Haven't been returning txt or phone calls. I just don't want anything to do with him anymore. The fact that you are bitch enough to throw me and my child out in the rain over something so petty is unreal. But knowing him he gets into these random arguments with me, for me to leave and go home so another chick can come through. And Ive allowed him to do and say whatever he wants to do for the past 2 years....

I'm tired and Its not fair to my daughter so no more. I'm done.

The O.T.H.E.R. Woman....

Females, lets be clear....and REAL....a man isn't cheating with you because you are so good at being the other woman....he's cheating with you because you aren't good enough to be THE woman. I laugh at women that brag about being the "go to" woman when the man gets bored at home, & you try to put down a submissive woman for being who God designed her to be. Learn what submission really means. A submissive woman is far from weak, because a true submissive woman knows how to carry the load for him and her both without him even having to know it. She knows how to speak to his spirit & not his lusts. She knows how to push him to his dreams instead of pulling him to destruction. She knows how to pray with him and not play with him. She knows how to be quiet even when her flesh wants to speak. She knows the value of his hard work & not just his dollar. A submissive woman is his "LIFETIME" but you are just a "GOOD TIME"...and that's all you will ever be. He knows that he can throw a few dollars & material possessions your way & that's all you will ever expect. The other woman makes it easy for a man, the submissive woman makes it easy for herself by making him EARN & not buy her.

You are the O.T.H.E.R. woman...an Overplayed Toy He Eventually Releases

Seeing Sexual Attraction 1st!

Sex is an important part of a relationship to me "I always think I know almost instantly... " It definitely is a vital part of any relationship!! If I don't feel a strong sexual attraction to a guy, it usually does not go far!! I mean you can LOVE anyone, but what makes your lover different than your loved ones is the special intimacy you share with them and no one else!! I have TRIED to 'develop' sexual desires for 'great guys' before... but for me, if the physical attraction is not there... it just does not work out in the long run! :( I would not be so blunt as to tell them that I 'don't want to have sex with him' - that's a bit harsh, but since he is OBVIOUSLY attracted to me in that way, it would be unfair to him to give him false hope by going out on further 'dates' with him!! A guy friend of mine said to me most guys are not really interested in being just friends with a woman!! If a guy tries to kiss me, and maybe rub my leg , his intentions are pretty clear. 

So with that being said I cannot be with someone that I'm not sexually attracted to. 

Some might call that shallow or being narrow minded. but am I wrong for knowing my own personal preferences when it comes to what I find attractive??!! LOL . Just because I know what I find attractive and you're not it, does not make me shallow or narrow-minded... I just know what I am attracted to. Some guys can take offense when you just tell them straight up I just wanna be friends or I don't see you in that kind of way. We ALL have different physical traits that we find attractive, we ALL have different things we find sexually attractive... so why is it that when we 'reject' someone that does not have those qualities and traits are we automatically labeled as shallow?? I been called that...

So let me tell you the story on the guy that called me shallow and narrow minded, he is also the reason why I'm blogging...

This guy and I have been talking for about a month of just talk...we chat online through instant message, by phone talking or texting. We both have seen pictures of one another so we both know what each other looks like before we were to meet. Even though I really wasn't feeling his pictures I gave him the benefit of a doubt because our conversations we good. Mentally we clicked. Even when we talked about sex on chat or phone we seem to both desire the same things. We have a lot in common. So two months into talking we decide to meet up. Last week he invites me over for dinner at his place. I was very impressed that he cooked me dinner, I liked that his place was clean and neat. I didn't like the fact that I got all dressed up, looked fine and you greet me in basketball shorts, white beater, and some jordans on lol...I expected him to be dressed. That's no biggie but I did peep that. We ate fried chicken, greens, and velvetta for dinner. I brought over strawberry shortcake for dessert... We ate we had great conversation, we smiled and laugh i had a great time but still I DIDNOT want to take him up to his room and fuck him. 

Anyway...after dinner we went into the living room and continued to talk. We watched a movie called the grey and he dimmed the lights and made the atmosphere more sexy....lighted some candles  and all...and then he sits all close to me and puts his arm around me. I was ok with that part...later on in the movie he starts trying to massage my shoulders and rub little circles on my leg and then he goes for the kiss....(pump your brakes...pause)

I back up, I don't say anything because I really don't want to crush him so I mention that we are having a nice time I don't want this to go any further then just chilling and watching this movie. He was cool with it, but I could tell that he was a little irritated by the comment like ...this bitch. So the movie is over and I really have to get going I gather my things and we he walks me out...we mention it was nice and we should do this another time...and this time he asks for a kiss goodbye...I tell him no.  he says ok ok I can respect that, he told me to call him when I got home and I drove off.

I drove off not wanting to see him again. I drove off not feeling nothing for him. When I walked into the door and he greeted me and I looked up at him I knew then and there this night wasn't going anywhere. And then when he started with the candles and all and I peeped game I became uncomfortable and a little on the defense. The next day he called to talk about last night and I just told him that I would like us to chill a little more and development more of a relationship and just be good friends. Lets start there and see where that leads us. Which I really met,  Thinking over time I could development a sexual desire. Guess he wasn't feeling that statement and went into talking about women that give off signals like that want it, tried to throw a low blow at me and said I was being a little narrow minded and shallow and how he felt. ..I'm like WTF on the other end...he was about to talk to DIAL but I was like no we gonna talk about this...smh

Now I've have been VERY open minded about this situation even though there wasn't a sexual attraction...he is a intellectual being that's able to hold a decent conversation. Now and days that's difficult to get. He didn't look like Idris Elba but I still  had a open mind and even tho I really wasn't physical attracted to him either I still wanted to show him a good time and be good company...

Where do me and him stand now? we still talk back and forth online, on phone. As far as a 2nd date I'm not sure, he pissed me off about me being narrow minded and shallow. 

I like to think I'm humble and genuine. I'll give ANYONE the benefit of a doubt. Now I MIGHT have lead him on just a tinnie tiny bit...lol...(when we got into our sex conversations) and that might be why he felt a certain way during our time together., but you never assume anything. 

this subject is definitely a to be continued...stay tuned

Gurl He still gonna cheat....

The older I get the more I get these men. Like Steve Harvey said act like a lady and think like a man.

I've been cheating on, and I was also been the one doing the cheating. So I've been on both sides of the fence, I know what its like to be cheated on and to sneak and cheat. Neither one is good. They both lead to heartache and pain. And just when I think karma has got me back for what I've done....something happens to me again.

Right now I'm not in no pain. Nor do I have to wonder about someone cheating on me. Its feels good to be free and be able to date and mingle, but at the same time my heart still belongs to him. I have the ability to fuck and suck who ever I please, whenever I please but i cant. My spirits rejects anyone that touches me. And its all because he still has that control over me. And i still feel like im entitled to him. i still belongs to him.

I want to belong to him. honestly but were to different. I want to be with the one that my child knows that i know.

Selfless w/o being selfish....

I think selfish should be replaced with self-interest. Everyone has self-interest and makes every decision from self-interest because they make the decision based on what they want to do. Nobody makes decisions without self-interest.

The way I interpret selfish is different than self-interest. When you do things for someone, you do it out of self-interest. You want them to be happy. However, if your self-interest includes helping others or caring for others, it is more selfless than selfish.

If you act on love for someone, you are acting because you want to make them happy - you care. That care that you have though makes the act more selfless than selfish.

If you do an act without regard for others and do something that will benefit yourself then it is selfish.

The way I defined selfish and selfless make the words a little more abstract. Lets say you give a ride to one of your friends for two reasons:
1. You care for them and want to give them the ride since they have no other
2. they say they will give you a ride tomorrow (since you don't have one tomorrow)

^In that example, the act could be considered selfish and selfless. It could be selfish if you don't care much about the person and probably decided to not give the person the ride if he was not offering you one tomorrow.
The act could be considered selfless if you did care about the person and would have decided to give the person the ride anyway even if he didn't offer you one.

Whether the act is selfish or selfless (and how much of each) depends on the decision maker's reasons for the act. If you judge someone else's act, keep in mind that there is a good chance you don't know the person's real reasons for doing an act (though some can be pretty obvious). Even if the person expressed their reasons, they could be lying!

Sista Big Bone

Plump or plus size
Thicker or bigger
There's no way to describe
The feeling of these rubbing thighs.
I make no apology nor try to disguise
My curvy and more than ample body
When gazed upon by unaccepting eyes.
My Body was made perfectly
The way God intended
So who cares
If my stomach is a little overly extended?
But never have I pretended
Or failed to realize
That physically my body
Isn't like you,
We both have two arms and two legs
I just have more body than you do.
No longer will I be
Ashamed of me
Because society has everyone shook.
But what they don't know,
Is that Mo'Nique Queen Latifah
And women like me are the modern look.
A pretty face
With a little extra chin
And stretch marks that graze our skin
Less is no longer more
Because we are the new thin.
And yes there are an extra set of love handles on my back
From my occasional mid-night snack
But whether you call it
Over weight, obese, BBW, big girl or fat
I know that you can plainly see
That I am SISTAH BIG BONE REALITY!

Grind With Me

Yesterday I signed myself up for pole-chair dancing classes and exotic dance classes. It starts in June and it's twice a week for 8 weeks. (i do zumba @ the gym once a week but i wanted something more dance routine) If you enjoy dancing.... instead of goin to the gym and doing weights and cardio you could join a dance studio or find something in your area where you can get a exercise in something you love/like to do. If you haven't taken a pole/chair dancing class I suggest you do so, or a exotic dance class...(what makes it exotic is your doing more booty, hip,leg,work in a sexy way-look it up if you wanna know more)  I'm a big girl and I thought I would get intimidated and feel left'd out in the class but being in that environment put me to the test.  I had to be open minded and willing to try. It made me see my insecurities, i learn how shy and anti social i was , over time i made new friends, gain confidence, and you feel sexy, I'm more confident,  more sure of myself now and its fun and makes me happy. And most importantly is a fun sexy way to exercise build strength and endurance and learn a new trick lol. so the point of this post is lol...get into something that you love to do or try something you never thought of doing...if you don't wanna do it alone get ya girlfriend to join you .share your stories, suggest different classes we all could take or do. Look up different classes and events in your area and experience different things this summer!!! Have a Blessed Day Ladies <3 Dani

Mental Stability

Many issues that we face on a day to day basis were not usually brought up or talked about back in the day they were covered up, over looked, pacified, ignored. 

Over the years a lot of issues like racism, gang violence, stds, pregnancy, self esteem and so on are really being brought to people's attention. I feel like in 2012 people are a lot more open to these topics. People are not afraid to hide whats going on in the world, very bold, very open about everything now. 


Being mentally stable is so important  this day and age. If you are not mentally stable you can easily be broken down. I think a lot of people are not mentally stable, especially teenagers and young adults. Pregnancy is on the rise, stds are spreading , a lot of suicides have been going on, gangs are multiplying, and you see fights everyday on world star or you tube. And that all steams from not being mentally stable. It also can stem from not having a good up bringing, your surroundings and people that you may be around can be the influence, the trials you go through as a child to a young adult, abuse, neglect, and the list goes on and on. 


Not being mentally stable can cause you to act out, be suicidal or think suicidal. Be insecure, depressed. Be upset and mad all the time. Act out of character , randomly.


I just want to shed some light on this issue because people can make excuses as to why there not mental stable like I had a bad childhood, or my father rapped me, or i was taught to be or act this way, I'm secure and I gotta do what i gotta do to fit in, my parents and friends do drugs so I'm doing it to...all of these excuses or reasons comes from a person who is weak in the MIND.


Mental is the MIND and Unstable is unsettle, or unchanging. 


So to me that means a weak minded person who does not know them self. 
Does not love them self. 
Does not care about there well being. 
                                              Confused, Troubled, Lost....smh


If you are a person who is mentally unstable you need to seek medical attention, talk to someone, or you can pray about the situation and grow and learn to love yourself. 

Once you love yourself, and know your worth, and know your purpose. Mentally NO ONE will be able to break you down. Address the issues that you have with in and solve them and put them be hide you and start clean. If you are a parent, teach your kids about being strong, respectful, and confident. Teach them good principles about life and how they should go about life.

This is a serious topic...this is a start....comments are appreciated. Until i randomly want to write a blog about something again....i'll holla.

Basic Bitch By Ray D

You might be a "Basic Bitch" if....
 - You a bum-ass woman who think she the shit but really ain't
- If you fuck a nigga and all his homeboys, you a basic bitch
- If you a black girl and your weave is red, green, purple, or blonde... yous a basic bitch
- If you claim you independent, get wit a nigga, marry a nigga, have kids wit a nigga, take the nigga to court and ask for child support while you already gettin child support, you can kill yourself, you a basic bitch and you desperate
- If you tell a nigga you can throw down knowin damn well ur ass can't cook a raw egg.. you a basic bitch
- If you scared to fart or take a shit in front of ur mans knowin u been together for a year or two... you a basic bitch
- If you bend yo ass over in all yo pictures just to make it a lil bigger knowin you ain't got one, you a basic bitch
- If you and ur man got all yall clothes off and yall bout to have sex and you put yo hands up and say stop, you a basic bitch and you already knew what you were gettin urself into while he was kissin on yo neck
-  If you not giving your man GOOD head on a regular basis and think that you gon keep him to yourself, yous a basic bitch. Get it togther its 2012...
- If you sing any beyonce song all day erryday, somethin like "upgrade" and ain't nothin upgraded about you since high school in 92, kill yaself, u a basic bitch
- If you got 5 kids with 5 baby daddys.....yous basic bitch
- If you take any man on the Maury show knowin u coulda saved the trouble by testin him at the hospital.. yous a basic bitch
-If you FUCK every man in the world, "rehoecate", then put yo coochie on lock and act like you born again saved again christian, yous a basic bitch
- If i see granny panties on anything you wear, ANYTHING! yous a basic bitch
- If you step up in the club with them fresh heals on, cold done, and the back of yo ankles ashy.. yous a basic bitch
- If you fuckin a man in the same bedroom as your baby in.. yous a basic bitch
- If you walk like a bitch, talk like a bitch and get mad when somebody call u a bitch... yous a basic bitch
- And if you are feeling some type of way from something I said after reading this then... guess what??? Yup, you guessed it, you're probably a basic bitch.
 Is this you...?

Dee OH NONO's

1. If your unintelligent, arrogant, or ignorant. (i love to talk about everything, you need to have a open mind and be aware of what's goin on and be smart.- be able to hold a conversation and have a opinion about things)
2. Never being satisfied with anything (he or she doesn't appreciate the things you do to make them happy its never good enough for them)
3. Lack of commitment or cheating.
4. If we don't share common morals and values.
5. Selfishness and inconsiderate (playing the victim all the time, making everything about you havin that what can you do for me attitude)
5. Abuse (verbal or physical)
6. Broke. (we both have to be financially stable. if something happen during the relationship like layoff or something then I can understand that but want better for yourself all the time. You have to be makin your own money.)
6. He or she is not neat and tidy (im a neat freak he has to be one too...)
7. Sexuality (for me this could make or break the relationship. we both have to be on the same page sexually and be open about it. deuces if you not up to par in the sex department
8. Weak ( not sure about yourself, not confident, not demanding and outspoken, not strong willed and strong minded)

Act like a women...then mayb u could keep something...

 I'm so against women that wear the long fake hair and eyelashes, put on TONs on makeup walking around looking like clowns, dress like they goin to the club every day,  so against women who are loud and obnoxious and don't know what to say out there mouth, so against women who think sex is a way to man's heart, they think that giving there body as a trade for a ring, or money, or happiness is a way of life. These types of women sicken me, make my stomach turn, I'm so against them. So against women who don't know how to keep a man. A good man! Talks down to him all the time, talks bad about him all the time, lies, cheats, seeks attention from other man, uses there child against him, welfare collecting women, so against women who expect the world revolves around them and a man should bow down and let you walk all over him...these are just a few...

My question is how can you want a good man if you can't be a good women? You have to bring more to the table then some pussy. Seriously. You cant expect more from a man then you can do yourself. For example if you expect a man to have a job, car, live on his own, then yo ass need to have the same thing. If its not ok for him to live at mamas house then its not ok for you too either.

If you have a good man you better keep him and what i mean by keep him is NOT waiting on him hand and foot or being his slave.Check him when he needs to be checked. Do right by him, take care of him cook him breakfast before he goes to work, iron a shirt of two from time to time, make sure when he gets in the house is clean, dinner is cook, and the kids are under control. Especially if he worked a  long day at work...to me that's something EVERY women should be doing if your in a committed relationship and living with the person. Be good to him and show him you love him all the time. Give him head on the regular he should never have to ask, sex him good on the regular, be his freak!  Don't nag and complain about every damn thing all the time. Pick your battles not everything is worth fighting over. These little things can make a huge differences in a relationship.

But yet some women think there too good to be doing these things and that the man should be doing all for them. There are things he should be doing as while. Its goes both ways, but were talking about women right now. Makes me think sometimes when i witness this happening with females well with that attitude honey no wonder your still single. Still fucking around trying to get wife'd up. Why even waste your time dating and fucking if you can't do anything for him??? Ladies you have to do more then fuck him , and look pretty 247....

Ladies yall need to really sit back and ask yourself why you still single, and instead of pointing the finger or talking about men aint shit yall really need to evaluate yall selves.

Stop bringing the hurt and pain from the past relationship into the new one. Whatever mental issues you got going on with you ...you need to resolve before going into the next relationship

Don't let NO man run over you, abuse you in any way. Be a good women to a good man...

Stop being selfish.

Put you child or children first. I see women looking fly with name brand clothes, and hair and nails done and the child looking dirty, and nappy hair...that should be the other way around your children should always look clean, healthy, and fly and then you 2nd

Stop putting men, partying, sex, and drugs before your kids.

Stop being desperate. Giving your # out to anyone that ask, flirting with anyone that flirts with you, I know being single means at times your also alone but you have to learn how to be comfortable and ok with being alone. You don't need nobody.

Stop bringing different men in and out of your children lives. Got the child calling all your boyfriends Daddy...smh

Stop waiting on shit to happen and make shit happen.

Stop opening your legs for every Tom, Dick, and Harry and learn discipline. I hear all the time aww he look good, I aint had none in a while, or he got money so ima let him fuck....smh...where's your self control???

Don't let yourself go. Keep you hair up, stay smelln good, exercise often, and look good. 

Be open minded, and intelligent learn about things that are going on in the world and around your city.

Stop getting pregnant by men you know aint shit, and then after the baby comes you expect yall to be this perfect happy family

Make sure you step your game up before you go out searching for mr.right

Ask yourself what can i bring to the table? How can I make him better?

Be his best friend.

I'm not trying to come at the ladies when i got the writing this came out and it needs to be addressed some how because I see so many people getting divorced, women having all these children, women fighting each other over men, uneducated women, un intelligent women, women who are lost and don't know themselves so they seek attention from men, women who don't know what love is or how to love themselves I see all these types of women with some type of issue but yet there never looked in the mirror to see if the problem start with them within.

So if your one of these women that think you may have a problem. Please work on fixing it. Because the way you act and carry yourself affects everyone that has to deal with you. 

Gettin on MEN will be my next post...until then ladies step ya game up!

6 weeeks in....

Been a minute since I posted the latest on me....So I have been working out for about 6 weeks now. I only lost 2 pounds and inches here and there...(sigh) even though that is nothin I still have a positive outlook about losing weight. I strongly believe that I will be at my goal weight in due time.

 been looking up quick fixes such as lap band, liposuction, tummy tuck- which i probably wont consider a tummy tuck because you will not be able to have a normal pregnancy and i do plan on having more children in the future. Sometimes i think to myself i rather just pay the money since I can't be consistent and true to a diet. I'll never considered any of these options because i know I can get up and work out and diet...im just hard headed and not in my right mind when it comes to dieting.

 I can say I am proud that I have gotten into the habit of even going to the gym 2 to 3 hours...4 days a week and exercising. (pats self on the back lol)
For someone that would go and when the 1st sweat fell i would be out. To now and days completely sweating my hair out....and my chest and back full of sweat .I know its not gonna happen over night. And for me to loose this weight i know I have to be dedicated to it. but I can't seem to program my mind to believe that.

The recent update on me is i have been goin to the gym exercising...sometimes i be in my zone listening to music or doing the class that I loose track of time. and I end up being there longer then expected. which is good...I know my problem is eating. The time of day i eat, how much i eat, how much im intaking (which means the same thing), what kinds of food im eating.

If i can master the eating healthy part then I think my diet would be alot easier. And then there are those times when ill do so well with eating and exercising during the week that when the weekend hits...its a different story. I'll have a drink or two with the girls or we go hit out olive garden and I wont make a healthy choice selection....smh...i understand i have to make better choices in what i eat....trust and believe i know that and i understand. Im pretty sure we ALL are aware and know what we need to do...the problem we have is doing it and sticking to it.

i need to ask myself how bad i wanna loose weight...and is this really important to me? my answer to that is yes and no. No because even though im not losing weight i feel like im doing alot...i dont sit on my ass and eat all day. I have a full time job,and a part time job, a 3 year old that i watched alone during the day we do things together such as going to the park or playing together, then i have to get a nap in somewhere, and then i have to manage my food intake throughout the day. I usually go to the gym around 5ish....don't get out till about 7 ish most of the time and then i try to take a nap and then i go to work at 11...my day always consist of taking care of my daughter, sleeping, work, gym....and i eat in between it all

and yes because I know the long term effects of being obese.yes because i dont like what i see in the mirror and I want it to change...yes because i want to be a healthier me. For me! For my child!

i use to snack alot during my shift 11pm to 7am (night auditor) because no one is around after about 3am the hotel is dead and i have nothing to do...so a snack will turn into about 3 to 4 snacks....since ive been going to the gym regularly,  ive been drinking water like crazy and i only have 1 snack when i work..and whenever i feel hungry i just drink a bottle of water and that urge for food goes away...(temporary) but i forget im hungry and find something to do....

when it comes to exercising im doing cardio everyday (about a hour) and weight training 2x a week, my water intake has increased. (now im peeing every 5 minutes lol) Just purchased my 1st juicer...which i love so im new to the whole juicing thing but im trying some different stuff i like...with the juicer im getting my serving of vegetables and fruits and more. .............So im on the right track i jus think i need a little more discipline on my part. and maybe work out a better schedule on when to eat vs. eating on the go...or grabbing something quick....

With God all things are possible and I'm enjoying the ups and downs of this diet! I love reading everyone's stories I love all the encouragement thankyou all who took the time out to read this ir give feedback its appreciated.

Take Care of yourself, be healthy, exercise, always have a positive attitude when dieting, and be happy! ----Danielle

Randomly Thinking...

At age 24 I'm still not sure what I want to do or become. A lot of my time ...well going on  5years has been chasing someone around that I really need to leave alone. Sometimes I tell myself today is the last day I'm going to see him and then I'll leave and the conversation will get good throughout the week and next thing you know hes asking me you coming down next weekend. Honestly if I wasn't up here every weekend I would be at somebody's house...forcing myself to be there because deep down inside that's not where i really want to be. I am a strong believer or doing what your heart tells you to do.. whether its right or wrong its your heart. If I have a strong feeling about something I act off it. Always been that way and I don't think that will change. Listening to my heart has got me running around in circles over one man. I ask myself all the time what the fuck are you doing here??? I know I need some alone time but when i am alone I'm depressed and bored and sometimes crazy. I'll never get into detail about some of the thoughts that go through my  mind...you might think im crazy.....

Better To Keep Her

It is Better to keep Her !

Men, when a Woman can see past your finances and what you do for a living , and fall in love with who you are, you may want to keep her. If She can respect and honor, you , she is a keeper. When she supports you in your dreams and in your goals and can encourage you even when she doesn't understand everything you carry on your shoulders she is a keeper. If she can... deal with you with all your hangs up, she's a keeper, when she can listen to your advice and be coachable she is a team player!. If she can be patient, humble and submissive, yet still be independent while being interdependent on you- then you have it going on. When she can confidently tell all her friends and family about you with nothing but spectacular things to say - that says it all. When she can keep what goes on between you, she has you covered. When she knows what to say and how to say it thats Class. When she can confidently tell you she is ready for you to lead, if she has children will allow you to come in and become a father to her children realizing its a package as deal as they say. " When she can say i got your back, without necessarily seeing whats in front ;) (thats called Faith) fall hard for her and fall quick! if you lost your job tomorrow, and lost it all, and she says baby i am still here, what do we need to do to bounce back and how do we need to do it? When she can be the big corporate power woman at work, but come home and know how to lay all that aside, yield and become the best player on your team.